Marriage Power · Personal Assessment

How Healthy Is Your Marriage?

An honest look at your relationship – in 3 steps. Answer alone and truthfully.

Ready?

Before we can fix anything, we need to know where we truly stand.

Many couples live in a "zombie marriage": everything looks fine on the outside – but inside, it's cold. This test shows you the real state of your marriage.

Three blocks. Honest questions. A clear result.

🔒 No data is stored. Your answers are only visible in this moment and disappear as soon as you close the window.

👤 Take this test alone – honestly, without thinking about what your partner would answer.

💬 Then: Talk together. If possible, let your partner take the test too – and then share your results openly with each other. That conversation alone can be a turning point.

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What is the current state of your marriage?

Choose the description that most honestly reflects where you are right now – not where you want to be.

🔥 The Burning Marriage The Goal
  • You are a team – you laugh, pray and share a common vision.
  • Conflicts get resolved, not swept under the rug.
  • You are deeply intimate – physically and spiritually.
Hallmark: Unity & Passion
🏠 The Roommate Marriage Reality
  • Kids, house, bills – everything functions perfectly.
  • But you're business partners, not lovers anymore.
  • No fights, but no depth either. Each on their own screen.
Hallmark: Distance & Routine
❄️ The Toxic Marriage Danger
  • Fear, bitterness, silence or constant conflict rule daily life.
  • One or both of you have already checked out emotionally.
  • There are "exit doors" – thoughts of divorce or escape.
Hallmark: Destruction & Coldness

"Bear one another's burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ."

Galatians 6:2 – ESV
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The 5 Great Marriage Killers

Marriage crises rarely happen overnight. We ignore the warning lights for months until the engine breaks. Which ones are flashing red for you?

SilenceYou only talk about logistics – kids, schedules, money. No real conversations about feelings, dreams or fears.
Separate WorldsHe has his hobbies, she has hers. No shared "us time". You live alongside each other, not together.
No IntimacySex is a rare obligation or has stopped entirely. Everyday tenderness – holding hands, hugging – is gone.
Spiritual DroughtYou never pray together. Faith has become a private matter.
Contempt ⚠️Eye-rolling, sarcasm, mockery, constant criticism. Contempt is the most dangerous signal – it is acid for love.
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The 7-Question Test

Rate each statement honestly from 0 (not at all true) to 10 (completely true). Do this alone first.

JoyI genuinely look forward to seeing my partner at the end of the day.
5
ConflictWe can resolve conflicts and reconcile without days of silence or hurting each other.
5
TrustI trust my partner completely – no secrets around phone, money or relationships.
5
IntimacyWe have a fulfilling, regular sexual relationship that makes us both happy.
5
FaithWe pray together regularly and share openly about spiritual matters.
5
LoveI feel loved, respected and valued by my partner.
5
VisionWe have shared goals and are pulling in the same direction.
5

"Examine yourselves, to see whether you are in the faith. Test yourselves."

2 Corinthians 13:5 – ESV